Submitted by: Rebecca Gordon
Self-confidence is an important tool that can help you to grow and achieve better results, both in your personal and professional life. A confident person is much more likely to win a job interview, make new connections, be attractive to the other sex and so enjoy life that much more. It is a vital aspect that can greatly influence your daily life and it is a personal trait that you can get full control of. Confidence itself is not exactly something you can turn on and off but the factors that contribute to it are. A person is confident when they are at peace with themselves and their decisions.
I used to be lacking in confidence. I would go so far to say that I was a wallflower who kept myself small, quiet and out of view. Only since learning techniques and strategies to develop myself, have I been able to step in front of my shadow and live life with confidence. Here are some techniques that have helped me to gain confidence in myself.
1. Identify Yourself
Have you ever been in a position where you had to talk about who you are and you didn t know what to say? This can often happen during a job interview when your potential employer asks you to describe your strengths and weaknesses. A lot of people freeze and tend to give extremely generic answers such as: I m a hard worker and My weakness is being too nice . These answers have the reverse desired effect of making the employer think you re just another face in the crowd with no special attributes they can make use of.
Twice a year, I apply a technique that I call Mobile Feedback . I send a text message to good friends who I trust with the following message:
In my quest to continuously improve myself, I would like your feedback on what you observe about me: my character, personality and characteristics. Who am I to you? What do I represent? What are my qualities?
The responses I receive are sometimes surprising. It is that we don t always see ourselves in the way that others see us. I have been told that I am a strong woman , a nurturer , always positive , supportive , amongst other traits. Knowing ourselves takes much more than self-observation. Constructive feedback from others gives a wonderful insight into the depths of ourselves that we miss or take for granted.
A Life Design Coach is that trusted and supportive friend. A Life Design Coach will give you feedback and can help you write down your key attributes and develop strategies for furthering your personal development.
2. Mold Your Image
It is easy to look at a successful person and attribute that success to a particular detail. These details can be them having the money to pay for better education for themselves or their offspring, time to take care of their appearance or even that they are born with better features. In reality, every success story that s worth aspiring to has been the product of hard work and time consuming experiences. If you re not happy with who you are and where you are heading in life, it is up to you to make a change.
A real change involves taking action and this might be hard to get started, but it is the only true way of making a difference in your life. Everyone can think they need to lose a few pounds or find a better job. When we are able to move objects with our minds we will get those results! Until then, accept who you are and importantly, work on every single aspect that bothers you about your life. Think of what small thing you can do each day that will make that little bit of a difference.
I say affirmations each morning and evening using a Neuro Linguistic Programming technique that empowers my subconscious to be programmed to do that small thing each day that will make a difference to me achieving my aspirations. In this way, I say who I want to become and do this in the present tense. Therefore, I act as if and mold my image subconsciously, that projects into my conscious, everyday reality. In having the support of a Life Design Coach, you too can identify your problems find strategies and solutions that much more quickly, that produce results.
3. Stand by Your Decisions
Making decisions on the spot and relentlessly backing them up is a clear indication of a confident person. But how can you make perfect decisions that you can stand behind with full assurance that they represent your best interests? Things that look good on the spot may turn out to be a pain in the future and long term projects that have a rough time getting started can turn out to be extremely rewarding later.
The only real answer to better decision making is through having the experience. As said by an anonymous writer experience is the best teacher . Trial-and-error, whether done by you or others, is how we have evolved to be the most intelligent creatures on Earth. Start making your decisions and stop letting your judgment get clouded by fear. Think to yourself that the answer is either yes or no. If it s no, it s expected. If it s yes, it s a bonus ! Think to yourself, there are no guarantees in life it s the experience that matters . This transformation of thought will help you to be more confident in your decision making.
As soon as you manage to put your life on track and influence your goals through your actions you ll become a more confident person. You can t predict every detail of your life or whether your goals will change over time but you can learn to adapt through the experience of living.
We all need help to develop and reinforce strategies and techniques for living, so don t hesitate to ask and learn from others.
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