Submitted by: Natasha Mellick
The awkward moment when you are not interested!
It comes the time when you are dating a guy and you have gotten to know him and maybe even sealed the deal in the bedroom department. But what happens if he doesn t fit your criteria of mister right. He is just too nice and too sensitive and not manly enough for you. Or his ego is the size of the planet. Or you realise your just not attracted to him as much as you thought you were.
The struggle is telling them…we all tend to string them along in fear that we are going to be the bad guy. Especially us girls, I think to be honest we like the attention that someone is interested even if where not interested in them, so we drag out the inevitable conversation.
Lying and telling them one thing that you are exclusive to them, however you are sussing out the other potential candidates in the dating scene.
Dating is trial and error and it is all about testing out what is out there and what you want from the opposite the sex. So I think there are rules when deciding to enter the awkward moment of ending the dating game:
1. Be honest and straight up front from the beginning
2. Be confident
3. Be the Bitch sometimes, even if it isn t what they want to hear it is better they know the truth
4. Try not to be judgemental, picky or have unrealistic standards that no guy could meet so you don t have the conversation when maybe you in fact should give them a chance
5. Be respectful and you can do the deed without acting stuck up, rude or too good for them
6. Try and avoid sending the text message or just randomly deleting them off the online dating site or off your friend list on Facebook. Do not just avoid the situation, especially after many dates not giving any closure and just taking the easy way out and become missing in action is not fair on them.
7. When providing the reasoning don t give the typical line, It s not you, it s me it will never end well. But a reason, even a dumb one is better than nothing. An honest reason is better. If you are telling the truth they should understand your point of view and why you are doing what you are doing. Even if they don’t get it at first, they eventually will or at the least appreaciate your honesty. We are not going to like everything we hear.
8. Don t lead on guys when you know you re not ready to commit in the first place or not over your ex. It is only going to get messy. This is a tough rule to follow, as so many of us go on the rebound, looking for a quick fix to get over an ex, when we really should just stay home, eat the ice cream outta the tub, listen to sob love songs and have the endless “what if” and “why” convos with our mates.
9. Take control and responsibility of the situation. It is your life and your happiness at the end of it all so don’t stay if you know you are wasting your time.
10. Have some balls!
At the end of the day, dating is the step before a serious committed relationship with mr right. It is the hurdle that you need to get through to get what you want, so do it right! Breaking up is the tough part of any relationship and sometimes there is no such thing as getting it right or a mutual agreement, but there is no harm in trying to be the bigger person. Even if your breaking up with them because they aren’t big enough lol
About the Author: Just another girl trying to figure the love thing…mr right is just around the corner and we all need the go to bible for advice or just to read the experiences of someone else to say O M G that has happened to me too
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